Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.
In Step Two we examined our concept of a Higher Power. The program of recovery can work for anyone who can accept a power greater than him or herself.
Step Three doesn't say, "We turned our will and our lives over," rather, it suggests that we "made a decision" to do so. The idea of turning our will and life over to the care of a Higher Power can seem impossible to some of us. However, it can be done gradually, over time. This is possible when we become willing and have faith. What is important is that we start the process.
By staying in the present, we release the past and let go of the future. Doing so helps us relinquish our self-will. Many of us found that simply making this decision opened us up to a spiritual connection. This decision was an act of faith in and of itself.
For some of us, our faith started to grow as a direct result of our abstinence from marijuana. Others of us had to "act as if." We find that praying for willingness often helps.
Even if we do not understand or feel connected to a Higher Power, it is possible to work Step Three. To release our self-will, we make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a higher power. We let go and let god, as we understand (or don't understand) god.
- Read Step Three in LIFE WITH HOPE.
- Review Step Three with your sponsor, or with a trusted member of MA.
- Look up the words decision, will, acceptance, and faith; write out the definitions that you find to be significant, and write what each word means to you.
Review the Third Step prayer on page 13 of LWH:
- What, if anything, about this prayer works for you?
- What, if anything, about this prayer do you resist?
- Write your own version of this prayer, using as little or as much of the original as you choose.
- What does willingness mean to me?
- How does self-will affect my life?
- Am I willing to be open to the idea of surrendering my will to the care of a Higher Power? What stands in the way of my willingness, if anything?
- Do I try to control people, places, and things? Do I blame myself when I am not successful at doing so?
- Have I tried to stop using marijuana through self-will? Was I successful? If not, why do I think that is?
Understanding the Care of a Higher Power:
- Do I have faith that my Higher Power can relieve my obsession with marijuana? If not, do I have the willingness to "act as if" a Higher Power could do so?
- Where in my life do I believe my Higher Power can take care of me? Where, if anywhere, do I feel my Higher Power cannot take care of me?
- Where in my life right now do I feel my Higher Power is taking care of me?
- What does turning my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power mean to me?
- What fears do I have about turning my will and life over to the care of my Higher Power?
Discuss your answers with your sponsor, or a trusted fellow MA member.
Welcome to STEP FOUR . . .